Binge Drinking

April 23, 2010

When we reviewed the video from my DUI arrest the primary concern my lawyer had was that I’d blown too high to be functioning as well as I was. He told me this would be a behavioral red flag in my case – an indication that I was a heavy, regular drinker. He said most women with a BAC as high as mine would be passed out. Who me? Beer Pong player-extraordinaire, Jamaican breakfast-beer-chugging-victor Spring Break 2000, sleep-where-you-fall Scotland summer 2001? Nope, not me. I’m a blackout drunk, which means that though my mental and physical state are impaired I am able to continue drinking. And drinking. And drinking.

It takes a conscious effort on my part to drink in moderation. And I wonder…should I be surprised? In a culture where we have drawn a line of drinking reason at a person’s age rather than a person’s behavior there is little incentive to slow down and moderate. I read an article this week about a binge drinking study in the UK and immediately thought of college. Pre-game. That was our word for it. Society said tisk tisk, you’re too young to drink – so we drank before we went out into the world. And we knew we weren’t likely to be served some places, too…so we drank even more in the pre-game so the buzz would carry through to the finale. The problem was, sometimes we couldn’t remember the game or we passed out before we could even get there.

A while back I read an article on college drinking policies. The article listed university chancellors who supported a revision to the current drinking age. I was pleased to see my once-chancellor Gordon Gee on that list. I always knew that man was smart. Would that our society would arm our children with the knowledge and tools for moderation instead of pumping them full of guilt and shame…it might make for more moderate adults!

Here’s the study on binge drinking. What do you take from it?

Study reveals extent of binge-drink culture

On a personal note: I went on my first girls’ trip since college last weekend. Coming away from it, one of the things (besides the food!) that pleased me most was the relative (let’s be honest) moderation I exercised in drinking. It’s so nice not only to remember the laughter but also to remember the jokes!

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I smoked cigarettes from age 14 to last November, breaking only during my pregnancy and nursing. For the last year or so I smoked, my husband did not tolerate it. He quit smoking before our son was born – on my insistence.  He never did understand why I didn’t just stop like he had.

We argued about it. The arguments often started about something else, then he would say something like “and now you’re going to go smoke a cigarette…I know you are.” Walking outside and lighting up was driving a wedge between us but no sooner had the words come out of his mouth and I was out the door. F you, dude.

My behavior is sometimes similar with alcohol:
“You’re going to drink too much tonight – I can see it in your eyes.”

I was thinking about these behaviors as I read an article on anti-drinking ads. Based on my own experiences, I’d say this study was dead on. What do you think?

http://alcoholselfhelpnews.wordpress.com/2010/04/05/anti-drinking-ads-can-increase-alcohol-use/

By the way, I quit smoking in November after reading The Easy Way to Stop Smoking. I recommend it whether you’re interested in quitting or not. The behaviors Carr explores are all too familiar to addictive personalities…

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Balance

April 2, 2010

Taking a good hard look at oneself can be emotionally draining. I believe I get  strength for introspection in the exercise of focusing on others’ needs. It’s like yoga: a pull and stretch in opposite directions achieves overall balance. I have never felt this so profoundly as when I threw myself into the community service [...]

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12. The Plan

March 25, 2010

I’ve a theme that’s been presenting itself repeatedly of late…an echoing suggestion…don’t over commit. I have been working hard to pursue my interests and dreams and with all I have going on everything must be moderated. Thank you, awesome Turbo Chef kitchen timer. You moderate pbskids.org and my RSS Reader equally well, ensuring I spend [...]

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11. The End

March 2, 2010

678 days. That’s how many days have passed since I saw those lights in my rear view mirror. Why did I calculate that duration? Did I think it would quantify the experience? Help me sum it up beautifully? Launch me into perfect prose..? When I finished my group sessions I went to non-reporting probation. As [...]

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10. Service

February 22, 2010

Of all the opportunities I’ve had as a direct result of my DUI, the opportunity to serve has been the greatest. Though I’ve had that opportunity before in my life, I’ll admit I don’t often search it out. Still, I’m comfortable doing it and get a goodness recharge in the acts. Charlie told me early [...]

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9. Intentions

February 12, 2010

My husband and I used to argue about the bathtub. It aggravated the hell out of him that I wouldn’t rinse it and put up our son’s toys after giving him a bath. I didn’t think my failure in that department deserved the verbal lashings I got for it, but it did seem easy enough [...]

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8. The Holiday

February 4, 2010

We went to South Africa for two weeks to visit my husband’s family and our friends. I knew I could drink while I was away without being tested and I thought a lot about whether or not I would. I decided I would. So that I wouldn’t be miserable with guilt, I developed a logic [...]

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7. Group

January 28, 2010

Seventeen to twenty-one weekly three-hour sessions of group therapy at $60 a pop. This is fairly standard for a first DUI in my county. Some are more, some are less – this is what I got. When I learned that this would be part of my probation I was at a point in the process [...]

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6. Evaluations

January 22, 2010

I have had several drug and alcohol evaluations since my DUI. I was consistently honest and the results were consistently higher than what my government considers average. At first I was confident that what they consider normal isn’t at all. I know very few people whose drinking habits fall into their range of normal. Then [...]

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